New Years has come and gone. We must now wait another year for the fancy parties, champagne, fireworks, and the plethora of social media captions stating, "new year, new me." Now we must embark on the journey back to reality, with the added weight of the promises we've made to our friends and family. What are these promises you ask? Why our New Year's Resolutions of course. Unless of course, much like me, you never set a New Year's Resolution. Don't get me wrong, I completely believe in the idea of self betterment, I just believe the way we go about it isn't exactly productive.
Let me explain. Once a year we decide all in one day that we should change all the things we don't like about ourselves. We resolve to "be happy," or "lose weight." Yet, none of these so-called resolutions are possible in one day. Many of these so-called resolutions, are actually longterm goals, that require careful planning and a ton of effort. New Year's resolutions also leave tons of room to flake out, as they give people the opportunity to say "well maybe I'll just do it next year," if they mess up. One will never achieve their goals, if they only take a crack at them between January 1 and 5 every year.
Here's a better way to look at it. Set a yearly goal; somewhere you want to be by the end of the year. Plan it out, and accept that there are going to be days, weeks, even months when you will probably mess up. Changing your lifestyle is a journey, not a destination you can just reach in one day. Maybe your goal will change, that's okay too. Don't wait till New Years comes around again in order to start working toward that goal. You owe it to yourself to try to be your best 365 days a year, not just January 1. Most importantly, be kind to yourself; you won't change overnight, and you shouldn't expect yourself to.
So I'll leave you with this. Set a goal, be realistic, work hard, but accept the setbacks, and most importantly cut the words, "New Year's Resolution" out of your vocabulary.